If you find yourself having more negative thoughts then positive it’s time to change your perception of what happens to you. These feelings are just your reactions to situations. Who says you need to react negatively? This is a learned trait, not what has to be. Allow me to create a scenario for you.
There is this couple, who’ve been dating for years. When anyone looked at them you would say they’re perfect together! Many asked “so when are you two going to get married?” They would smile and giggle and look into each others eyes, but never really committed to an answer. One day, one of them came home from a rough day at work and expected their other half would visit and help them decompress. The expectation was that they would do the usual and watch a movie and order some food. Unfortunately, when the other came over to begin the evening, they seemed a bit off. With tears in their eyes they gave the “it’s not you it’s me” routine. Then, proceeded to break the others heart with goodbyes and promises that they’ll find the right person one day.
This typically goes one of two ways; you react in despair (most common) or you can react with gratitude.
Believe me when I say “been there, done that” on both reactions.
The easiest and predictable reaction would to be to first, create a resentment towards the person. Then, accuse them of all the depravities of the world. Next, having constant thoughts of “how could they do this to me” or “they never really loved me”. Finally, reviewing the time that they spent together deeming it as tainted. Doesn’t need to be in that order. This is just how I would organize myself torment.
The most difficult and purposeful reaction is to ride the wave of hurt, knowing that this to shall pass. While treasuring all the wonder emotions felt good and bad. Embracing the lessons learned about each other and most importantly what you learned about yourself. This takes practice and good intention. It’s worth the work.
As humans we are put on this beautiful earth to experience all things both pleasurable and painful. I know the painful moments can drive you to do things you wouldn’t normally do. I truly believe without pain there can not be any growth. I have experience a tremendous amount of pain in my short life and I would never change it for anything! I would go through it all again to keep the lessons I’ve learned and the love of the people whom are in my life today. The gratitude I have for life in this moment is worth the hell I felt. The practice of “let go and let God” is a life saver (it really is, it decreases your stress which in turns decreases the chances of heart attacks and strokes). I’ll always go back to my nursing roots…
Release the guilt, pain and worry of yesterday, today and live a happy and healthy life.
Love and Light,
I would love to hear any questions or comments of the subject of life