Creating your own joy, is about perception, the way you think and feel about the situation you find yourself in.
My favorite saying during difficult times is, “This too shall pass”.
Even the most heart breaking moments will have a profound positive effect on your life, only if you wade through the emotional turbulence to the full process of healing the pain.
Try to see the event as an entire rotation of a clock. At the 12 o’clock point is the impact of trauma. This is where the crisis management begins.
Traveling towards the quarter hour is where, while in the state of shock, you are processing the damage that has occurred and may even forecast misery yet to come.
Moving through to the half hour mark is where your mind, body, and soul will experience pain. Allow the pain, feel it and experience it. To shut your feelings down will only slow your healing process, causing a festering wound to your soul. This is were many remain, in their feelings. Stuck in feelings such as loss, despair, defeat, unjust, or even the thought of deserving such pain, will set up for long term ramifications.
Approaching and moving towards the restructuring of your souls state of homeostasis, where joy and happiness can be felt and even become substantial. This last quarter of this journey is where you realize life continues. You are stronger and have the knowledge and experience that you are capable of making it through anything. Embracing faith, love, and compassion will be keep you afloat during truly trying times.
Talk your feelings out with somebody, a professional can offer you tools and coping mechanisms you are not aware of. My experience with therapy has proved that speaking aloud to an empathic ear can give you insight and a new perspective on life.